I know we have all heard and maybe even said a few New Year’s catch phrases: “A new you in ’02,” “We will thrive in ’05,” “We win in 2010.” And we all know the “Y’all gon’ see the real me in 2015” or the “I’m leaving the BS in 2014” type of people. My response is, “Where do you suppose this newfound identity come from?” I hate to break it to you, but flipping the page in your day planner does not make a “new you.”
Now before you write me off as one of those you may be leaving in 2014, know there is nothing wrong with making a resolution. I just feel a better term would be a New Year’s “Made My Mind Up.” “Resolution” gives an air of hit-or-miss—like an aimless, casual, unplanned something that, once dropped, is followed by a shoulder shrug and old ways.
Before you get on the banter bandwagon, ask: What exactly do I want to see for the New Year? Having a time and space to say aloud what you want to see for your life is important. But before you go rolling your eyes at the idea of making yet another promise that you can’t keep, it’s time to rethink what it means to make a New Year’s “Make My Mind Up.”
We’ve all lost track of the resolutions we’ve made at the beginning of each year. If you didn’t, you wouldn’t need to make them in the first place. How many of our bank accounts are being drafted monthly for gyms we only see as we drive past on the way to work? Or think about those classic literature books or that guitar or those sewing supplies…
There is nothing wrong with aspiring to resolve for more, but we don’t have to wait for the start of the year to do better. You want to call your parents more? Start today. You want to learn Italian? Start now. January 1 will not bring anything out of you that is not already there. Don’t wait on the calendar to inspire you, inspire yourself.
Of course, in the true spirit of being human, many of us will start at full-speed with our morning workouts or eating more vegetables or doing less impulse shopping, but the same lot will lull back into that place of non-inspiration and old ways. We slip up a few times and are ready to throw in the towel! But that is part of the beauty of a resolution—you have made up your mind. If you fall off the resolution bandwagon, decide to get up and get back to it!
Going into 2015, before making any resolutions, make your mind up to recommit to your goals when you inevitably lose sight of them. And remember, you don’t need a new year to be a new you!